Well this is a difficult one for me, especially rite now. I am married true, but my marriage is 22yrs old and we have gotten to a stage where everything is comfortable and boring, and stable, and friendly, and safe, and on automatic, and boring, oops did I say that already? lol.. But the truth is that having an open relationship is not possible (if you love your partner) unless things are a little boring, or should I say comfortable. Guys! A woman has to be able to trust you FULLY before you can venture into this type of scene. That means she has to know with out a doubt, that you are going home with her and that you would never go behind her back and call someone you have just met your own. Like I said this is a delicate subject for me, because I have had a boyfriend for the past 1.5yrs and I have had nothing but problems with this type of thing with him. It seems that he was one of those type that cant be trusted in a relationship like this. He never let us get to that comfortable point before trying to push me into that realm. And because I refused (I was not ready) he started going out side our relationship. And now it has ended. So you can not push a woman to that point unless you are trust worthy to begin with, and you allow her the time necessary to be comfortable and secure in your relationship. Most women would not mind venturing into a loving open partnership, but women need security. We need to feel safe first.  The man normally pushes too hard or too soon, and it ruins the trust that is needed first, So guys if you think your wife/ g-friend would or could be the type, and is be open to this, hint a bit but never shove her. Take her to a swingers club and see what happens. But always let her make the first move, and never show an intrest before she does. And remember your with her first and make sure she knows that!!