Well now, back to the art of touch. When ever doing the senate focus exercises you need to remember that these are not done with intercourse in mind, there is never any pressure to perform, it is strictly for arousing sensitivity, focus, and sensuality, there is no expected end result here. First and foremost, it is very important to clear your calendar, area and mind of any distractions or interruptions.  These exercises are not a selfish act but rather sensuality and concentration on each other. Attitude is probably the most important of all elements. You have to go into this not thinking of yourself but of your partner, and visa versa. Get into a comfortable position, in a peaceful soothing place start by focusing on just your partner and the curves and feel of her/his skin. Dont forget the verbal input, because with out communication you get lost in the guessing game. Keep visual contact at all times with your partner. Let everything you feel, see and smell engulf you. Relax and let your senses and your partner take control of your body, just let it happen, blocking every thing else out but the feel of your partners caress. At this point you may feel the need to just let go and have sex. DONT! At the point of high arousal, stop, slow down and back each other down out of that euphoric state. Once you are back on the ground and thinking straight again, discuss what you liked and what made you feel uncomfortable (if any). if you are the one doing the caressing remember to be alert and observant to your partners reactions to your certain touches and if you need to start a notebook and take notes of these reactions  feel free. And remember to be honest, caring, and open to each others comments and instructions. this is about rediscovering the joy that is possible between the two of you, its not a competition or a race. Everything you do and feel in these sessions are for the here and now and can be stopped and started as many times as you wish or have time for.. Remember to focus, and communicate!! Try this with your partner for one night a couple hours and tell me how you feel while sleeping next to your partner later that night!! And be sure to get back to me and let me know..!! I would love to hear from some of you... and please as always, feel free to ask any questions you might have. The best way to reach me is email ... I really hope this helps as i truly do like to open new ways for people to enjoy the wonderful gift of sexuality.